Every family has a unique ENERGY.
Take a moment and reflect on how the present ENERGY exists within your family?
What words would you use to describe the unique ENERGY within your family?
As I reflect on this time of year and raising my own family, I would describe our unique family ENERGY as very involved in family life, work, sports, friends and church. We were busy, overly committed and all driven to succeed and be a part of all that we could be a part of…Then, I (mom) burned out. For a time, our family held on to what had worked in the past and yet, we all had to come to grips with the reality that life would look very different moving forward.
The PRESENT ENERGY that was needed for healing was a choice every day – to choose and to choose, again when things seemed too difficult. Our everyday choice was a gift we truly gave to one another. I am blessed to say, with all that we experienced, as challenging as it was – we found the strength in our love for one another. We made choices for the present moments to laugh with one another; cry with one another; hug and share our love with one another. We chose to be grateful. We chose to address our certain realities. We chose to rise above the hard. Were there days that were very, very hard, often feeling too difficult? Yes, and yet, we kept choosing to be FAMILY with every present moment.
In looking back, it was the PRESENT ENERGY focus that helped our family through the hard. At the time, we didn’t have this language, but it is exactly what we have used to find continued healing within our family (yes, a choice for continued healing as life changes, grows and looks different).
Fast forward in this PRESENT time, our family ENERGY continues to be adaptable, understanding, accepting and loving. Did you notice my change in language? The language before was ALL external, what we were doing externally. The language that followed (unique to who each one of us is), turned inward. The healing for us all moved inward, in order to experience true strength as a FAMILY. And, the practice to address the present energy, IS to look inward and reflect on who we are and who we want to be…continues to this day. As a FAMILY, we have not looked to be a perfect family – we do seek to be more whole with hope, peace, joy and love within our present moments.
“It’s actually our ability to embrace imperfection that will help us teach our children
to have the courage to be authentic, the compassion to love themselves
and others, and the sense of connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life…”
– Brené Brown
(The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting: Raising Children with Courage, Compassion, and Connection)
Within our teaching and coaching at Family Strong Blueprint – we encourage families to be fully present for one another. The energy a family experiences when choosing to be present for one another brings the ENERGY of PRESENCE to the forefront of:
Connection – a HOPE for our relationships
Kindness – PEACE in our relationships
Thoughtfulness – a JOY in our relationships
Acceptance – Love in our relationships
As you enter into the Holiday Season – May your PRESENT MOMENTS bring you thoughtful reflection on what is most meaningful and important to you and your family.
We send you and your family, HOPE, PEACE, JOY AND LOVE ~
The Family Strong Blueprint Team
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